I work in service of who you are becoming.


Not the version of you that you have been carrying well enough that no one has asked what it costs


Systems

Every life runs on systems. The family you grew up in, the work you do, the way you treat yourself when no one is looking. Each one is a system. Even the way you describe your problem is a system.

Some systems are closed. They take whatever you bring to them and turn it back into more of themselves. If the system was not built with you in mind, the cost of staying inside it is your own entropy. The harder you try, the more it grinds. Other systems are open. They let the people inside them find the conditions they need. They reorganize when there is enough movement through them. Life lives in open systems. Closure is what kills it.

The work of therapy, when therapy is working, is not just to see the system you are in. It is to create the conditions where a different one can take shape.

The lens: existential and relational

Existential and relational therapy is the lens through which I see the work. It is not a technique. It is a set of commitments about what therapy is for.

The existential part means we treat the questions seriously. Why this life. Why these patterns. Why now. The patterns you live with did not arrive at random, and they did not arrive yesterday. They have something to do with what it has cost you to be a person in the world you have lived in. We treat that as worth understanding, not just worth correcting.

The relational part means the room itself is part of the work. What happens between us in session, how you arrive, what you avoid, what you trust me with and what you do not yet, is information. Not information to be analyzed at you. Information to be felt and understood together. The work happens in the relationship, not in the explanation of it.

This is sometimes called depth therapy, which is shorthand for going past the symptom to what the symptom is protecting. Skills-based work and symptom reduction have a place, and we use them when they help. They are not the goal. The goal is for the patterns underneath to have somewhere to be understood.

How I work in practice


These positions shape every session.

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  • A diagnosis is a description of a pattern. It is not a description of you.

    If you arrive with a diagnosis, we work with it. If you arrive without one, what happens next depends on which path you are on. If we are billing your insurance, you will have a diagnosis on your chart from the first session; insurance does not pay otherwise. If we are working self-pay, you can begin without one, and we can decide together whether assigning one would serve the work.

    Either way, what I will not do is treat a diagnostic label as if it explains your life. Anxiety is a real category. So is depression. So is ADHD and PTSD and BPD and the rest. Categories are useful. They become harmful when they replace the work of actually understanding what you are living with. The label tells us where to look. The work is what we find when we look.

  • Symptom management has a place in this work. If you are not sleeping, we work on sleep. If you are panicking, we work on the panic. The work has to meet the urgency where the urgency is, and sometimes the urgency is the whole reason you reached out.

    But once the urgency settles, the question usually changes. The question is no longer how to keep your symptoms quiet. The question becomes what your life is for, what the symptom was telling you, and what becomes possible when you are not spending all your energy managing.

    Most of the people I work with already know how to manage. They have been managing for years. What they have not had is somewhere to put the part of themselves that has been managing this whole time. That part deserves a chance to stop. That is what this work is also for.

  • Most therapy in the United States is talk therapy. Most talk therapy treats the body as the place where the client sits while the work happens above the neck. I do not.

    The body holds what language cannot reach. A person can talk about a loss for an hour and not feel it. The same person can take a slower breath and find the loss waiting where it has been all along. Words can be a way of approaching what is true. Words can also be a way of staying just out of reach of it. Part of my work is noticing which is which.

    This does not mean every session is somatic work. It means that what your body is doing while you talk is part of what we are paying attention to. The breath that catches when you mention your mother. The shoulders that rise before a hard sentence. The silence that lands different from a silence ten minutes earlier. We attend to that. Not as a technique. As a discipline of listening.

  • I am in-network with Blue Cross Blue Shield of Texas, and I also see clients self-pay. Both options are real, and the right choice depends on what you are coming for.

    When insurance pays for therapy, the insurance company gets a vote in what therapy is. They require a diagnosis. They require a treatment plan organized around symptom reduction. They may require session counts that fit a cost-effective model rather than a clinical one. For a lot of presenting concerns, that structure is fine and the work moves anyway. For some kinds of work, particularly depth work that does not map cleanly onto a diagnostic code, the insurance frame can shape the therapy in ways that are worth thinking about ahead of time.

    Self-pay means we work to your timeline, toward the goals you actually have, with records that belong to you and to me rather than to a third party with a financial stake in what they say. For some clients, those are deciding factors. For others, BCBSTX coverage is the difference between starting therapy and waiting. The first call is free. We can figure out together which path fits what you are looking for.

  • I am bilingual and bicultural, originally from Socorro, just outside El Paso. Most of the therapeutic frameworks I trained in came out of a tradition that did not have me, or anyone like my family, in mind when it was being built.

    That does not mean I throw the frameworks out. It means I hold them lightly. I notice when a tool was built for a client who did not have to translate themselves twice a day. I notice when a recommendation assumes a kind of family that is not the kind of family you came from. I notice when the work I was trained to do has a cultural accent it did not know it had.

    If you are a client whose life sits inside that gap, your gap is part of the work. You do not have to explain why your mother's voice is in the room with you when you are deciding something. We can just attend to that. If you are a client whose life does not sit inside that gap, the same care applies, just from a different starting place. Cultural humility is not a feature for clients of color. It is a discipline that shapes how I work with everyone.

  • I do not believe people need to find meaning in their oppression. I do not believe the answer to a hostile world is a more resilient inner attitude. Some of what people carry is not theirs to fix. It belongs to a system that needs to change, and pretending the work is internal when the injury is external is a way of making people responsible for what was done to them.

    I also do not believe that naming the external injury is the whole work. Some things can be changed inside the room, even when what is happening outside the room cannot. What therapy can honestly offer is one or two hours a week in which the conditions are different enough that something inside you, that has not been moving, can move. Choice that has felt abstract can start to feel real. That is not a small thing. It is also not everything. I try to be honest about both.

  • Rush you through a protocol you did not ask for. Treat your inner life as a problem to be optimized. Pretend that talking about a feeling is the same as feeling it.

    Tell you what your symptoms mean before you have told me what you are living with. Replace your judgment with mine. Mistake the goal of therapy for the goal of feeling better as quickly as possible.

    Promise you what therapy cannot promise. The work does not guarantee that you will be free of pain. It offers the possibility that the pain you carry will become more your own, more understood, less a thing that runs you from underneath. That is what I can offer. Anything else would be dishonest.

Frameworks and modalities I draw from

The lens is existential, relational, and depth-oriented. The tools below are what I draw from in service of that lens.


  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy ACT

A skills-and-values framework. Useful when a client is stuck in fighting their own experience and needs a way to act on what matters anyway.


  • Dialectical Behavior Therapy DBT

A skills-and-tolerance framework. Useful when emotional intensity is the texture of the day and the client needs ways to ride it without being run by it.


  • Jungian and psychodynamic work

Depth traditions that take dreams, archetypes, and unconscious patterns seriously. Useful when the patterns we are looking at predate conscious memory.


  • Internal Family Systems-informed parts work IFS

A way of working with the different parts of a person, recognizing that conflict inside is not a sign of being broken but a sign of being a person. I work IFS-informed, drawing on the framework without holding formal IFS certification


  • Somatic and body-aware practices

Attention to what the body is doing while the mind is talking. Not a separate modality. A discipline of listening.


  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy CBT

Skills work for when skills work is what is needed. Not as the lens. As one tool among several.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • It depends on what you are working on. Some clients work with me for several months around a specific issue. Others work with me for longer through several seasons of life. The goal is for you to leave when you are ready, not to keep you in therapy as a way of life.

  • That is often where the work starts. Most clients arrive without a clear picture and find one over the first few sessions. The first call is free. We can figure out together whether this is the right fit before you commit to anything.

  • The first call is free for exactly this reason. We talk about what brought you here, I tell you how I work, and you decide. If it does not sound right, I will try to point you toward someone whose approach might fit better. There is no commitment from a consult.

  • Yes. Algunos temas solo tienen sentido en el primer idioma. We can work in either language, or in both, depending on what serves the work.


A first conversation

Free, fifteen minutes, no commitment. We talk about what brought you here and whether this approach fits what you are looking for.